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Dear Amy: Iâ€™m a woman, currently dating a man younger than me.
He pursued me relentlessly before I agreed to go out with him.
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On Ur first Verabredung, I leaned Bei to kiss him and he got a terrified look on his face and blurted out, â€œIâ€™m gayâ€¦!â€
I immediately left and avoided him for days.
He convinced me that he is just trying to shock me, and welches just messing around.
OK, sure â€“ maybe thatâ€™s true, but every Alleinstehender time weâ€™re together he brings up different scenarios, and asks Swingtowns me things like, â€œWhat would you do if you caught me kissing this guy or that guyEnergieeffizienzâ€
I asked him the other night why we never go to his place and his answer was, â€œI donâ€™t know, maybe Iâ€™m gay.â€
Iâ€™m pretty open-minded, but this really is getting old.
I believe he might Beryllium closeted and in denial.
Dear Unsure: My thoughts: If you try to kiss someone and he recoils inside Gewaltherrschaft, saying, â€œIâ€™m queer,â€ then heâ€™s Fruchtwein likely gay.
If he consistently brings up scenarios where he speculates about your reaction to him kissing this guy or that, then heâ€™s Altes Testament least gay-adjacent or bi-curious.
If you ask him why you donâ€™t go to his place, or why he didnâ€™t Schliff his Pforte, or why he likes the colour green and he says, â€œI donâ€™t know, maybe Iâ€™m gay,â€ then â€“ yep.
My point is that according to you, just about every question you ask him â€“ regardless of the topic â€” seems to swing around to him being â€“ or BedrÃ¤ngnis being â€” schwul.
There are probably many great reasons this man wants to date you. But he also seems eager to find ways to talk about his own sexuality.
You could ask him if he is at a sexual crossroads. Would he like to talk about EDV As part of an honest, noninvasive wayWirkungsgrad
If you want to Beryllium sexually active with him and he finds all sorts of reasons to avoid or evade physical contact with you, then elektronische Datenverarbeitungâ€™s time for you to make a decision about being with him, based on your own desires, and Elend his.
Dear Amy: I an dem a 63-year-old widower. My late wife died nine years ago. Dating has been gewalttÃ¤tig.
I dated A frau von stand for two years. She is a nurse and is deeply involved As part of public health during this pandemic. Informationstechnologie is overwhelming for her.
I tried to Beistand her with gifts, books, and home-cooked dinners. Over time, our relationship went from intimate to wearing a mask and no touching.
She hinted around and told me that I donâ€™t have to stay hinein the relationship. I told her we could make EDV. She continued to pull back.
Finally, I called her on EDV. I left that evening angry.
I took a day and realized I welchesnâ€™t angry with her but with . I wrote her a card, bought her flowers, and left them on her porch.
She is now ghosting me like an angry 15-year-old.
How do I resolve the pain of ghostingWirkungsgrad Iâ€™m proud that I gave the relationship 100%. Yet the emotional pain of the instant cutoff of communication and the pretense that I do Notlage exist is difficult.
How do I GeschÃ¤ft with that? Should I send her a letterEnergieeffizienz I need/want some sense of Entscheidung. Heck, my house has a Senkwaage of stuff from her on the shelves!
Dear Left: Your relationship might be yet another emotional casualty of . You seem to believe that this breakup ended up being sudden, but Informationstechnologie ended up beingnâ€™t. Your girlfriend provided multiple signals over a long period that she welches pulling away from you.
Yes, write to her if you believe Informationstechnik would help you, understanding that EDV wonâ€™t change the outcome. Put the things she gave you into a PÃ¤ckchen. Put the letter (or a copy) inside. Pour yourself a Trank. Close the Augenlid. Raise a Trinkspruch to the end, and resolve to let time do its magic, to heal this loss.
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I recently had an extremely close friend who died. Her husband asked me to help notify other friends, which I did, by phone.
Within five minutes of our call, one friend had posted elektronische Datenverarbeitung on Facebook, shocking those intimate friends Weltgesundheitsorganisation had Notlage been personally notified.
Informationstechnik ended up being the height of selfishness.